The Met You Mother” as marriage and relationships

The show “How I Met Your Mother” was created in 2005, where it was based on the authors lives. The idea of the show was based on “let’s write about our friends and the stupid stuff we did in New York” where they created 5 characters based on people they knew: Ted, Robin, Barney, Marshall and Lily to portray the show. The way this show is done is that Ted narrated by Bob Saget, is telling his children, Luke and Penny, about his stories while living in New York and the events leading up to how Ted met his wife. Each of the 5 characters throughout the show find that their lives interlink, as many storylines such as romance, friendship, marriage, betrayal, the New York lifestyle, and the highs and lows this group of friends experience in their lives. As the show has received plenty of positive feed back, it’s also seen its share of mixed reviews on certain storylines.  With every show, the plot continues to keep the audience intrigued as throughout 9 seasons Ted’s double-ended narratives and pushy narration, the main question “who is Ted Mosby’s real wife?” continues to explore twists and turns. As this show is a sitcom,  it has housed many great catchphrases and gags, it will known for its portrayal on certain points of view. The focal point of this essay will discuss the Queer and feminist analysis of the show “How I Met You Mother” as marriage and relationships are key points throughout this series this group is intwined with.
Marshall and Lily are the long time couple of the group, who have shown the traditional aspects of dating within the 2000’s. At times, they play a parental role in the main character, Ted Mosby’s love life, as this show is based on the barriers and obstacles in life Ted goes through to find the “one”. Early in series, Ted was shown as the hopeless romantic that believed the universe had a plan for him when it came to finding the “one”, who could think of his type of wedding and how he would raise his children. Meanwhile, Robin was purely “career first” oriented where she didn’t focus on settling down but trying to jump start her career. We also see within the first few seasons that Barney, another main character, used to be a down to earth, caring person as he wanted to be in the peace core and help others along side his girlfriend Shannon. “Feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression” – Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics (Ott and Mack, 178).  After losing his girlfriend to a corporate stud who focused on the lavish things in life such as wearing suits, high paying jobs, etc. this became a turning point in Barney’s life as he swore to get his revenge. Where the feminist analysis is observable as Barney becomes a womanizer who’s new motivation was to try and get as many women to sleep with him through a series of tricks, disguises, and plans almost as if he treated women as a game. After losing Shannon to this corporate stud, we see through many examples that Barney has explicitly used girls. Examples of Barney using women consist of: Season 3’s “the bracket” where trying to find out the woman interfering with Barney’s conquests, he uses a chalk board full of girls he’s slept with and never called back to find this one girl. Barney also mentions he’s sold a girl for a means of transportation. Another prime example is how in season 8 “The Fortress where Barney created the “Ho-be-Gone” complex where it would send girls after Barney sleeps with them into his wall and out of his apartment. This group has also come across other anti-feminist moments: “Season five’s “Of Course”, “The Slutty Pumpkin Returns”:, season seven’s “Now We’re Even”, season eight’s “Lobster Crawl”, season eight’s “The Final Page”, season nine’s “The Broken Code”. Two big storylines surrounding Barney is his books he wrote: The Bro Code and The Playbook.  Based on the course, these books bring on gender stereotypes between masculinity and feminity. Gender stereotypes (in North American media) is what each gender is supposed to be/act. Masculinity seen as Active/strong, Provider/political (public), Rational/logical, Sexual subjects (the beast myth); initiator. Meanwhile, Femininity is Passive/weak, Nurturing/domestic (private); motherly :Even if they work outside of home, they are still expected to do everything at home, Emotional/irrational/empathetic/compassionate and as Sexual objects (the beauty myth). The Wild turkey ad (Ott and Mack, 204) is an example.  How I Met Your Mother isn’t totally sad. The authors took care of Robin’s infertality with deference. Season eight’s “The Time Travelers” was one of its best scenes, really sentimental and strong. Marshall and Lily’s recharged pledges were moving. I cherish everything about the Mother herself and Ted’s association with her, demonstrating that this show still has a spirit. However, the stink of misogyny has corrupted what was once one of my most loved sitcoms.
The queer point of view is evident in the episode “Single Stamina” with Barney and is gay brother, James. In the episode “Single Stamina” Barney is against James getting hitched, as Barney restricts monogamy and marriage. Barney is a solitary and unbridled person and successfully speaks to the “aberrance” of single life. He in the end acknowledges his sibling getting hitched just on the grounds that there’s an infant included. This is a figure of speech known as “babies improve everything” which incenses me as it appears a cop out in story composing. Coming back to the scene the message appears, as it is Barney who is spoken to in the wrong, single indiscriminate way of life is terrible, get hitched. “Sexuality is fluid and difficult to categorize, and as a result the rather simple identity categories we use to name sexuality can never fully represent any individual’s actual, varied, sexual drives.” (Ott and Mack 216). It’s ace gay marriage, however it is master marriage and hostile to single way of life. This speaks to the mystery conservatism behind the apparently liberal professional gay marriage contentions have, a doubt of degenerate singles and glad to make gays less freak. Individuals have become over that men will engage in sexual relations with other men, and ladies with ladies, however as long as they do it at home in wedded connections in a decent working customary way it’s alright. Based on the lecture notes, Queer theory is an interdisciplinary perspective, seeks to disrupt socially constructed systems over meaning regarding human sexuality. It explores the seemingly “natural” binary heterosexuality/ homosexuality. Queer theorists work to expose the shortcomings of these labels and show how they work to support systems of social power and privilege. Political which being at the top of the list by adhering to society norms or at the bottom because of society deems appropriate or inappropriate.The portrayal of the single gay folks in the club and Barney for the most part (and the jokes about Robin’s wantonness excessively i.e. Marshall calls her a skank once to have a one night remain with “The Naked Man”) delineates that solitary individuals are for the most part more terrible than wedded individuals, as he is regularly depicted as broken. Symbolic Interactionism  is “The character and conduct of people’s social interactions are shaped in powerful ways by the symbolic meanings assigned to objects, events, other people, and social contexts.” (Ott and Mack 267). Going down this way, there’s significantly more to this. Ted, who is the hero, goes ballistic an abundant excess for a man his age about his folks separating and unmistakably has a perfect form of affection and duty which would in reality never live up to his desires. Every one of the characters have guardians who separate or were separated from Marshall. Marshall is the most dependable and very much carried on in a relationship and we consider this to be he never tricks or parts ways with Lily. The most exceedingly bad he does is chosen to be a judge in the face of her good faith for like 3 days or something. He is from the perfect atomic family and is the best seeing someone therefore once more: marriage is great, singles and separation are terrible! Once more, I don’t think this is the thing that the show is aiming to state yet it certainly could be believed to state it. Lily leaves for San Francisco and was especially overlooked by her dad (who was separated from her mom), Robin goes behind Kevin’s back with Barney and is a piece with respects responsibility (Parents separated), Barney is well, Barney, he is from a broken home as is his sibling, who likewise undermines his beau. They do get back together and Barney in the long run gets a kid which makes everything alright clearly yet there is a suggestion that having children is great and especially in a steady home as else they will be maladjusted. The reality Barney has a child does quite undermine the introduce as it isn’t suggesting he’ll be an awful father and he commits to being all around acted and gave to the youngster. However it does likewise adequately say one can’t be a decent parent or even individual unless one quits being wanton or by and large sexually dynamic unless in a conferred monogamous relationship. Preceding this we are intended to agree with Lily who is resentful about more established Barney in the finale who is as yet laying down with ladies still as he did in his 20s, however and the finish of his character circular segment is “whoopee he quits having intercourse and is presently a decent parent” since paradise deny somebody be single and substance to be sexually unbridled as long as they can remember. HIMYM could be believed to advance a backward and traditionalist view on sexuality, similar to the individuals who bolster marriage as an organization. It demonstrates the contemporary view that gays ought to be hitched, in light of the fact that marriage is superior to being not hitched as you are a) more inclined to raise terrible individuals as a solitary parent and b) evidently just ethically better in the event that you engage in sexual relations in a conferred relationship.
Therefore, How I Met Your Mother was known for being one of the popular sitcoms between 2005 to the present, known for its catchphrases and jokes but in today’s society based on the point of view of queer and feminist analysis, we know that this show can take things too far in terms of the main character Barney’s conquests for trying to sleep with the most women by any means and as well as Barney’s relationship with his gay brother, James, where once he decided to settle down with his partner, Barney wasn’t willing to accept their marriage based on their norms growing up they built based on what their mother taught them.